Sunday, October 27, 2024

A Holyoak Shoutout on an Historic Wichita Morning

John Bazzelle
"You still up?"

"Yeah, what's up?"

It was 11:01 p.m. on a Friday night but that incoming text came from the Midwest where it was one minute after midnight. My longtime childhood friend John Bazzelle sent it. I thought, "That's kind of late for him." And just as a question entered my head, he answered it with, "Don't panic, it's all good." 

You see, we had had too many sad communications over the last few years. First, it was my dad who was sick and passed away. Several years later, it was his father, Joe, who actually sang at my dad's funeral, who passed on. Less than two years later, his mother, Kathie, passed away. Joe and Kathie were great people and longtime friends of my folks, too.

Next thing you know, my phone rang with John on the other end. He said something like, "As you probably know, but if you don't, the groundbreaking for the Wichita Temple is tomorrow. LeRene (John's wife) said I had better let you know what's going on here." Actually, I did not know it was the following morning so I appreciated the heads up. 

He then related how he was asked much earlier to help set up the layout for power and microphones. And then he got an unexpected request which was to be one of the program's speakers. What a cool honor! We chatted for another 20 minutes or so and I told him he'd better get to bed since it was so late. He did texted me the info so we could watch the broadcast. That was great for a number of reasons. Though my family's history in Wichita is nowhere near as long and meaningful as John's, Wichita holds a dear and historic spot in our hearts

Dad as a missionary
Dad (2nd from right)
My dad served in the Central States Mission, that included Wichita, as a young missionary from 1950 to 1952. Though he lived among the Native Americans in Oklahoma the whole time, he did attend meetings in Wichita. 

A couple of decades, and four kids later, our family moved there in the early 1970s. We lived in Wichita for three years before moving to Calgary, Alberta, for three years before moving back to Wichita in the mid-70s, re-establishing some friendships and forming new ones as we set deep roots in a place where our Mom and Dad lived, even after us four kids left home, for some five decades. Alan once asked Dad about serving another mission - this time as a senior missionary couple with Mom. His response was, "That's what we've been doing the last 50 years." 

When we first moved to Wichita, we were in the Manti Temple district - a 1,000-mile drive to the west. Over time, as more temples were built, that changed to Dallas (360 miles) and eventually Oklahoma City (170 miles), where my folks served as temple workers for a couple of decades or so. So yeah, Wichita means a lot to us.

John's heads up was also great timing because Mom happened to be visiting with us at our place in Montana. Like us, she didn't know the groundbreaking was going on so we woke her up shortly before the broadcast, told her about John reaching out, and the three of us (Lori included) watched. It was so neat to witness the excitement of a temple being built in Wichita. While all the speakers were great, I was really looking forward to seeing John and hearing his words.

To our surprise -and delight- John gave a shoutout to us, the Holyoaks, along with so many other family friends we knew over the years. Thanks for your words, your example and your friendship, John!

Below are the words shared by John Bazzelle at the Wichita Kansas Temple groundbreaking that blustery Saturday morning.

First, I’d like to thank Elder Bangerter and President Chandler for this opportunity. I am truly humbled and deeply honored to even be present at this historic event. May I wish all of you, a heartfelt, Happy Temple Day!

I was asked that I address the topic, “Understanding the significance of a temple at this location to members of the church throughout the Wichita Temple District.”

The Impact to each of us individually, and as families, branches, wards and Stakes, is so much more than geography, but this place does matter a great deal and it will mean different things to different people. Perhaps the reason I was asked to speak on this topic is that my family history is so closely tied to the history of the church in this area. We are now six generations of Latter-day Saints in Wichita. My Great Grand Father, Edward Daniel Holmes or Grandpa Ned, as we call him, is said to be the first convert to the Church in Wichita. He was Baptized June 17, 1915 in the ArKANSAS River (yes that is the correct pronunciation). He immediately began to build the kingdom, Sometimes out with the missionaries 5 nights a week. Literally preaching in the streets of Downtown Wichita and holding cottage meetings all across South Central Kansas. In short order, they were joined by names like Julian, Samson, Walker, Clark and Ingram. Pioneers all because in those days, prejudice and persecution against the Church was still quite common. As Church membership grew, it was difficult to find places to meet.

Often any hall they rented, they were not allowed to return to once it was discovered that “Mormon” Services had been held there. The Mission President, Samuel Bignon finally told Ned to get the money, buy the land and build a church. Now no one would sell land to the church. So, he had to buy it himself and then transfer the deed to the church. Which was a struggle as well. Ned and Tom Kimball drove the whole region collecting money. They found good help in Augusta, Macpherson and Belle Plain and finally raised $8,000.00. They purchased a former dairy at the corner of Skinner and Wichita St. that had been owned by a fella named Hyrum Smith (no known relation). That building still stands today.

From that small branch the church grew steadily until the first stake was formed in 1962. That stake boundary covered a very similar footprint as the new Wichita Temple District. Many of the stalwart families that continue to have great impact here joined the church or moved here during the 1960’s and 70’s. Names like Jones, Meador, Toland, McIntyre, Hewitt, Hill, Spackman, Bozarth, Gruver, Epperson, Bates, Balzer, Holyoak, the Orrs and countless others brought pioneer spirit and determination to live the gospel and raise children in Zion.

Temple blessings have been long sought and fought for by the members in South Central Kansas. For the first 7 decades, it was likely to be a once in a lifetime experience. Significant sacrifice was required to make the pilgrimage to Utah. Temple trips often required a full week or more all the way into the mid -1980’s.

My siblings, cousins and I are four generations from the permanent establishment of the Church here. My brother Ron, who serves as 1st Counselor to Pres. Chandler, observed in a recent interview, that with each succeeding generation, Temple blessings came ever closer to us. In Grandpa Ned’s lifetime, the closest Temple was over 1,000 miles away in Salt Lake City. In our Grandmother’s lifetime the Dallas Temple was built. In our parent’s lifetime it was Oklahoma City. And now we stand on Sacred Ground able to see The House of The Lord rise before our very eyes. Less than 10 miles from that first small chapel. Within sight of the river in which all the early members in Wichita were baptized. Right next to the lake some of us played in as children. And truly walking distance for some members of the Valley Center Ward.

This close proximity is a great blessing to be sure, but it is not a blessing merely of convenience. The promise of covenants to come has been yielding life changing and therefore Eternal blessings in lives throughout the region from the very moment President Nelson said “our” name that glorious afternoon of April 3, 2022. Something about knowing we would soon have a temple here set fire to testimonies, sparked repentance, and returning and the healing of relationships. Inspired parents to lead in their homes, children to learn and set goals, youth to study and seek strength from one another, and all of us to better unite and work toward sharing this blessing together.

Artist's rendition of the Wichita Kansas Temple

I’m sure every Bishop in the District has seen what I have. A dramatic rise in requests for new or renewed temple recommends. Family members who have promised children or spouses to be ready when this Temple is open. Individuals who have been inspired to return and began that journey even before this Temple was announced are strengthened in their resolve to continue on the covenant path. And I know, there are some listening today who have felt in recent years or even days, that someday soon, they should make changes and begin again. Let me leave you with the words of President Nelson, who just a moment before announcing our Temple gave this prophetic counsel.

Quote - Yes, we should learn from the past, and yes, we should prepare for the future. But only now can we do. Now is the time we can learn. Now is the time we can repent. Now is the time we can bless others and “lift up the hands which hang down.” As Mormon counseled his son Moroni, “Let us labor diligently; … for we have a labor to perform [while] in this tabernacle of clay, that we may conquer the enemy of all righteousness, and rest our souls in the kingdom of God.”

I testify that Russel M. Nelson is the Prophet of God on the earth today. Jesus Christ is our Only Savior. He is our Redeemer. His Light and Peace and Joy will fill this, His house and you will feel it. It will heal your heart and your homes. And he will bring us together in His House and walk us hand in hand back into the presence of our Father.

His hand is stretched forth still. We have but to take it and go forward, now.

I so testify in this Holy Place, In the Holy name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

John, LeRene and their family turning dirt where the new temple will eventually stand

Sunday, July 7, 2024

"Chalk One Up for the Old Guys"

As I returned to the back corner of the dugout, there sat Dave Loomis, father of our team captain and manager Matt Loomis, with, as always, the team's scorebook in hand. This time though, he had a goofy grin on his face. As I approached, he looked at me and said, "Chalk one up for the old guys!" I chuckled as well, although somewhat breathlessly.

Here's the deal. We were only two batters into our game when I came to the plate. Our leadoff man, Alex, was already on base. As I peered across the field, I noticed the third basemen was playing a bit off the third base bag and the left fielder played me even more so toward left center field. I just wanted to put the ball in play down the line. I got a good inside pitch and did exactly that. As soon as it left my bat, I knew the line drive would be an easy double. 

As I rounded first base, I glanced toward the left field corner, It looked like the left fielder maybe took too sharp of an angle and couldn't quite cut off the ball as it headed to the fence. Now, I'm an old guy (turning 62 this December) so extra bases in softball are nowhere near as plentiful as they used to be. But hey, I can still run pretty well, you know, for an old guy. I just kept chugging. Our third base coach waved me home and I crossed the plate with an in-the-park home run, meeting my teammates with high fives and fist bumps as I entered the dugout. Then I made my way to Dave in the back corner.

Hmmm, the last time I hit a legit home run was, was...I couldn't remember. Shoulder surgery in my mid-50s precluded any such statistic so it had to be in my early 50s or even late 40s. 

Four days later, I found myself on the King Ranch Golf Course in Frenchtown, Montana, teeing it up with my son, Jace, a mutual friend, Brandon, and my brother, Alan. Little did I know but lightning was going to strike again, although in a slower, more methodical fashion. 

To make a long story shorter, I hit some marvelous (especially for me) shots on my way to a 2-over par 38. Two-over! That was my best showing since the mid to late 1990s and just two strokes off my best 9-hole score ever. Just craziness! 

The most wild part was carding back-to-back birdies for the first time in my life. On the 302-yard, par-4 third hole, my approach shot landed about six feet from the pin. That putt found the bottom of the hole. The next hole was even crazier. My 155-yard approach shot on the 407-yard, par-4 fourth hole was a 7-iron that I did not hit flush. In fact, it was more of a worm-burning scorcher but it was on line with the target. Because of the lay of the land, I did not see it once it rolled over the lip of the green but Jace yelled that it hit the flagstick. We made our way up there and sure enough, a tap-in 12-inch putt for birdie. Go figure. Chalk up another one for the old guys!

Thursday, July 4, 2024

Mark Twain Got It Right

Mark Twain got it right when he said, "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." That's a mantra I've been riding for a number of years now. 

This past winter was the first winter of my life when I didn't play one single game of pick-up basketball, not one! I was frustrated because those guys I played with for years just plain fizzled out. But a chance encounter with a former hockey teammate led to me signing up to play in the Glacier Hockey League's spring session. Suffice it to say it was absolutely wonderful being back on the ice for the first time in 12-13 years.

When the roster came out I recognized three names - Bill Bevis, Brandon Moore and Nick Adams. I'd met Bill years ago as he maintained a pond at a city park in Missoula for ice skating. Brandon is about the same age as my oldest daughter and lived down the street from us when we lived in Lolo and Nick is a former softball teammate and foe. 

I showed up about 30 minutes before our first game and as I walked in, there was Bill. We had a nice little chat. The funny thing is after being the "old guy" playing basketball or softball, I no longer fit the bill. That's because Bill, a lifelong hockey player who played semi-pro back in the day, was 82. Eighty-two, and still playing! Then I took a few minutes to watch the ongoing game on the ice to check the skill level. I heard a couple of voices behind me and two more guys entered the rink with their hockey bags on their shoulders. The first was Brandon, our team captain. Thought I didn't know him, I recognized him. And with him was his half-brother Nick. 

In the locker room, Brandon asked what position I'd played. I said mostly center but would play wherever would best help the team. He asked me to play defense so I settled in along the blue line. Though not a great defender, I did the best I could. Our first game was a dandy. Our center followed up a rebound and put in the game-winner right at the final buzzer. From there, we struggled losing the next three in a row. 

One of them was against a team with a bit of a reputation. They played rough. Our division calls for "no checking," although body contact is a given. Still, these guys where throwing their bodies around and ramming us into the boards. They got whistled for four penalties and could've gotten another four. One time, during a dead period as the linesman was waiting to drop the puck and both teams were casually changing lines, a 6' 2" center on their team skated past me and put a shoulder into me as I stood on the blue line waiting for action to resume. I mean, really? In one motion, I reached out and slugged him between the shoulder blades as he continued to the faceoff circle. He turned around and raised his arms kinda like, "What's up with that?" Dang, I wish we could've beaten them.

With a record of 1-3, Brandon asked me in the locker room prior to our fifth game if I wanted to play center. I was all about that. "Do you want to be eased in and maybe do so by the third period?" he asked. "No, I'm ready right now. Let's go." That turned out to be a solid call. Brandon is better on the blue line with a better understanding when to jump in on offense and when to stay back. I was helping the team win more faceoffs in the other team's offensive zone so we could get more shots on net. As a team, we rallied and improved. We won our next three games 3-2, 11-0 and 7-1. That set the stage for our one-game playoff for third place in the league. 

Before we knew it, we trailed 2-0 not even six minutes into the game, and this was against a team we manhandled twice during the regular season. Our defense and goaltending stiffened, allowing our offense we take over. I put home a short slapshot from the right circle to tie the game at three. Then I went to the bench and our other center, Ryan, won the subsequent faceoff at center ice, beat a defensemen and went top shelf to put us up 4-3. We got an empty net goal to secure the 5-3 win and clinch third place, just one point out of second.


The Sweaty Sweaters (far right kneeling next to Nick, our goalie, and team captain Brandon)

It was so, so fun being back on the ice again. Having played a lot of different sports, there's just something different about hockey. I ended up scoring three goals over my last four games, all victories for our improving squad. And you bet I'm looking forward to playing with the same group this fall. Gotta love hockey...and Mark Twain's wisdom!

Grateful for my favorite fans

Sunday, April 7, 2024

Putting Basketball on Ice

It's inevitable! I mean, it was bound to happen. There's just no way around it. It's just the natural progression of things. Some things just cannot be stopped, right?

It's basketball! I love basketball. I've played my entire life. That is, until the winter of 2023-24. That's when my basketball and shoes sat in the back of my closet, unused, for the first time.  

So why would the day come that I would not play basketball anymore? Well, old age, a bum knee, arthritis, a lack of desire or some other physical limitation, right? I mean hey, I did turn 61 my last birthday. From looking at most other guys my age I know, that's way past the time of such activity. But I don't feel that way at all. I revel in being the old guy out there keeping up with the younger guys. In fact, it's great motivation. For all I care, that recliner can sit in the corner unused for a few more years anyway. I've still got decent stamina. My body, despite shoulder surgery a few years back, is in pretty good shape. 

So why did I quit playing basketball? Attrition. No, not me but others. I'd been playing pickup basketball with the same core group of guys for the last couple of decades. True, guys came and went but we kept playing. We would play once or twice or even three times a week when I lived in Lolo. Even after moving to Frenchtown, I kept making the 25-mile drive back to Lolo for a couple more years. Maybe that's because I was the guy who hung on to the church gym key and kept messaging the group to make sure we had enough to play. But the drive got old so I invited the guys to come play in Frenchtown, which we did for another five or six years. 

During that same time, I was invited by a softball teammate to join a nondenominational group of Christian guys playing at a high school gym in Missoula. They were a bit younger, more skilled and competitive - all things that really drive me. And yeah, I was the old guy in that group too. It was great - basketball on Frenchtown's short court on Thursday nights and again Saturday morning on the sweet, wooden full court in town. 

But then COVID-19 hit and things were never the same again. The high school gave us the boot so that group shifted to a church in Missoula. It was still a full court but the floor was tile on top of concrete and after two hours of running and gunning, my joints (for the first time ever) were yelling at me to stop playing there because of the pounding they took, so I did. We struggled to get enough participation to keep playing in Frenchtown. We just could not consistently get six or more people to commit to at least 3-on-3 basketball on our short court so that was that. Still, I found out about another group of guys playing full court in Missoula. That went on for a year but that, too fizzled out. I was so disappointed. I could no longer be the old guy playing with the young 'uns. I did have occasional trips to visit my son in Spokane to play pickup hoops there, but those also fizzled out this past year, not because they're not playing anymore but because they were playing tournament games when I visited and I was an out-of-towner. So I would go to support him and became the designed scoreboard operator. (Hey, if you can't play at least you can support others doing so, right?)

Manning the scoreboard with my grandson
So the dilemma remains, what's an older guy like me who still has wants to play to do? Here's the silver lining. I attended a play with family this past winter where I noticed a familiar name, Patrick Nicklay, in the program. Afterwards, I ran into him in the lobby and we chatted. Patty was an old linemate from back in my hockey playing days 20 years ago. He said he recently started playing hockey again, was having a blast and urged me to do sign up and join his team. Hockey huh? Hmmm, no doubt about it. I do love hockey. It had been a while but why not? I started playing ice hockey shortly before my 41st birthday and had a great seven to eight-year run before stepping away 12 to 13 years ago because the game times conflicted with my work schedule when I was a second-shift-working broadcast journalist.

The longer 2023-24 winter hockey season was ongoing so I looked forward to the 2024 spring league. Unfortunately, I waited to long to register and could not get into Patty's league so the commissioner suggested I play in the novice league. 


So excited for this!

Perhaps Mark Twain said it best: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." I'm with you Mr. Twain!

Sunday, March 24, 2024

Sifting Through My Past

It's kind of an honor yet not very pleasant at the same time. First, my dad passed away a number of years ago and then, several years later, I helped my mom sort through reams of stuff to clear out the house where they lived for some 45 years so it could be sold. That "stuff" included old personal items, keepsakes, journals and other memorabilia. 

That got me thinking about my stuff. I had a couple of boxes of things I accumulated over my 60-plus years so why not thin it out now to make it easier for my kids, or whoever, to finish the job whenever that happens? 

Below are some examples I wanted to digitally save ranging from my early elementary school days to high school.

Pencil holder & "Mark Holyoak" rubber stamp (junior high)

Sleigh made in welding class (high school) - We were given five basic shapes and asked to make something out of them using basic welds
Mold & belt buckle made in metals class (junior high)

Oven-baked creatures (elementary school)


Not sure what this is

Holiday season artwork





My art does not improve with age but only thanks to good tracing

















Fred

Lots of Freds


Sunday, February 4, 2024

The "Holyoak Boys-Only Club" (Plus Mom)

Mark
I'm a sucker for a good, warm flannel shirt. I've always liked them dating back to my teenage years. They're just so cozy. Unfortunately, I couldn't really use for them during my days as a broadcast journalist. However, when I left TV and took a job at the Rocky Mountain Elk Foundation, I was thrust back into the wonderful world of flannel shirts, fleece vests, boots and blue jeans. That's pretty much what I wear on a daily basis, especially during the winter months.

ßI first came across this sweet black and green flannel shirt during the early winter months of 2023. I saw a now former coworker wearing it and asked where he got it. He said it was an RMEF shirt available in our visitors center. It's thick, almost like a light jacket. I liked it. I went right downstairs and bought my own.

Fast forward to nine months later when a work email landed in my inbox. It said some customers who bought the shirt online were having issues with it unravelling. Because of that, the decision was made to not sell them anymore to the public. But a new shipment had just arrived so we employees were notified that any of us who wanted a shirt, or a bunch of them, could go next door to the distribution and take what wanted for free. There were about five big boxes but I didn't feel I could just scoop up an armload so I reached out to each member of the Bugle magazine staff that I supervise to see if they had interest. All but one did, so I hooked them up.

Mom
Later that afternoon, I again wandered next door and they had definitely been picked over but there were still a lot of them, especially XLs. And that's when the idea came to me. I'll get one for all the Holyoak men in my life - my son, brothers and sons-in-law. Mom was staying with us at the time so I texted and asked if she wanted one as well. She said "yes," so I grabbed one in her size too. But when I went back the following morning to grab more for the Holyoak women in my life, just about everything was gone, especially those in their sizes. Oh well.

While I was at work one day shortly thereafter, Mom got out her scissors and sewing machine and got to work. You see, her sleeves were too long so she cut off the cuff and then removed a lower section of the sleeve, sewed it back together and she was good to go. Here's to you, Mom! It looks great on you!

All of the guys would receive theirs as a Christmas present. Since Alan and Connor visited our place during Thanksgiving, I gifted them theirs at the same time - twinsies! A couple of weeks later, as we got closer to Christmas, I took an evening and boxed up shirts for Jace, Kerry and Matthew and shipped them out. I would give Kenny to him since we were to spend the day with his family.

As Christmas day rolled around, one by one, all the guys opened their presents. Matthew said his was a little tight (sorry Matthew) and his visiting dad was more than dropping hints that he would take it back home with him. I was with Kenny when he opened his. He said he liked it. And so it went. Below are photos of the entire gang except for Connor because well, there's just more to the story there.

Kenny

Alan

Jace

Kerry

Matthew

As for Connor, either he or Hallie forwarded a Christmas Day video of him wearing the shirt I gave him at Thanksgiving while opening yet another present from me. During my evening of wrapping up the shirts for all the guys, I'd forgotten I already gave him one and sent him yet another one anyway. When he opened it, he was like, "Uh...what?" Duh, Mark. #oldmanproblems

Then I thought it would be a fun to do a Facebook post showing a photo of each of us wearing our new, matching RMEF shirts. You know, kind of like a "Holyoak Boys-Only Club," plus Mom, that is. I sent out a text to all of them and I started receiving photos from each of them. That is, each of them, except Connor. He'd say, "Sorry, I forget but I'll do it when I get home from work," or "Dang, I keep forgetting but I'll get it to you." It became like a running joke. I'd send him a GIF of a disgusted kid tapping his fingers on a table. I'd talked to Hallie and she said she would get right on it. More time passed and the calendar page turned into 2024.  

Meanwhile at work. there are now dozens of employees walking the halls wearing the same green and black flannel RMEF shirt. When I wore mine shortly after the big giveaway, one of them said, "Oh Mark, I see you got in on the freebie action." I said, tongue-in-cheek yet truthfully, "No, I'm not like you posers. I bought mine early last year so my hard-earned money actually went to help advance RMEF's mission."

Fast forward to early February 2024, I received this text from Connor: "Some backstory for the shirt. I felt bad because I couldn't find it anywhere! I was so confused where it could have gone. Today, I found it! It had been thrown in a Christmas box and stored away with all our Christmas things on accident. Sorry it took so long. That's my bad."

Connor

I just laughed. But then it got even better. Hallie texted this as a follow-up: "Please accept this performance and our deepest apologies for the delay."

Yes, Connor and Hallie really delivered. It was an epic performance, indeed. I just laughed and laughed. But that's only part of the story. Aubrey's youngest daughter, Lexi, watched the video like 4-5 times in a row, laughing through the whole thing every time. 

So thanks Connor and Hal. What a great, albeit delayed Christmas present. I loved it! And hey Connor, hope you like the shirt(s).